Parenting
The Transition Trick That Saves Everyone’s Sanity
The Transition Trick That Saves Everyone’s Sanity Last Tuesday, I watched a four-year-old named Mia absolutely lose it in my office waiting room. Not because she was hurt or hungry — but because her dad had the audacity to tell her it was time to leave the playground and come inside. The meltdown was spectacular: […]
Why ‘Because I Said So’ is Backfiring
Why ‘Because I Said So’ Is Backfiring (And What Actually Works Instead) Last week, a dad in my practice — let’s call him Marcus — slumped into the chair across from me and said, “I don’t get it. My parents said ‘because I said so,’ and I listened. I say it to my son, and […]
What Your Child’s Drawings Reveal About Their Inner World
What Your Child’s Drawings Reveal About Their Inner World Last week, a mom came into my office clutching a crumpled piece of paper like it held state secrets. “Look at this,” she whispered, smoothing out her six-year-old’s drawing. It showed their family — but she and her husband were tiny stick figures in the corner […]
The Homework Battle That’s Not About Homework
The Homework Battle That’s Not About Homework Last week, a mom sat in my office with tears in her eyes. “We spent two hours fighting over a math worksheet last night,” she said. “Two hours. For ten problems. And by the end, we were both crying.” She paused, then whispered the part that hurt most: […]
Why Your Anxious Child Needs This One Phrase
Why Your Anxious Child Needs This One Phrase A mom told me about her eight-year-old daughter who was refusing to go to school. “She kept saying her stomach hurt,” the mom explained, eyes welling up. “I took her to three doctors. They all said she was fine. But every morning, she’d cry and cling to […]
What I Wish I Knew About Developmental Leaps
What I Wish I Knew About Developmental Leaps Last Tuesday, I sat across from a mother who looked like she hadn’t slept in days. “I don’t understand,” she said, tears pooling. “Two weeks ago, my daughter was this happy, curious little person. Now she clings to my leg like a koala on a eucalyptus tree […]
The After-School Question That Actually Gets Kids Talking
The After-School Question That Actually Gets Kids Talking Last Tuesday, I watched a dad pick up his second-grader from school. Full of hope and curiosity, he asked the classic question: “How was your day?” His daughter’s response? “Fine.” Then silence. The kind of silence that makes you wonder if your child has taken a vow […]
Why Your Child’s Lying Might Be a Good Sign
Why Your Child’s Lying Might Be a Good Sign Last Tuesday, a mom sat in my office with tears in her eyes. “She looked right at me,” she said, “with chocolate smeared on his face, and told me he didn’t eat the cookies. I don’t know what’s worse — that he lied, or that he […]
The 5-Second Response That Calms Any Meltdown
The 5-Second Response That Calms Any Meltdown Last Tuesday, I watched a father in the grocery store do something extraordinary. His daughter, maybe four years old, had just launched into full meltdown mode over a box of cookies. Instead of reasoning, bribing, or doing the tight-lipped march to the car, he dropped to one knee, […]
What Your Child’s ‘I Hate You’ is Really Trying to Tell You
What Your Child’s “I Hate You” Is Really Trying to Tell You The first time my daughter screamed “I hate you!” at me, I was standing in the cereal aisle of Target holding a box of store-brand flakes instead of the unicorn-covered sugar bombs she wanted. She was four. I was exhausted. And for about […]